Unapologetically Ourselves: Remembering Nex Benedict and the Power of Identity

My heart is both full and heavy this week. 

I spent much of last weekend getting to know several other LGBTQIA+ residents in Tyngsborough. These conversations left me feeling uplifted, inspired for the work ahead, and so connected to our community. And then on Monday afternoon, I learned of the death of an Indigenous, non-binary youth in Oklahoma. 

It's heart-wrenching to hear about the tragic loss of Nex Benedict, a non-binary 16-year-old who faced unimaginable challenges due to transphobic bullying. Their story serves as a stark reminder of the harsh realities that many LGBTQIA+ individuals endure every day. As someone who identifies as transmasculine, non-binary, and queer, I understand the importance of living authentically in a world that often seeks to erase or invalidate our identities.

Before deciding to run for Select Board, I grappled with how much of my identity to share with the public. While some advised me to focus solely on being "Jackie," I can’t ignore the significance of acknowledging my non-binary, transgender, and queer identities, especially in light of stories like Nex's. Their courage in living openly and unapologetically, despite facing relentless discrimination, is both inspiring and heartbreaking.

One of the painful aspects of Nex's story is the misgendering and misrepresentation they are enduring even in death. As someone who knows the sting of being misgendered, I share Nex's hope to be remembered for who they truly were, not how others perceived them. But why should we wait until death to affirm our identities?

In a world where LGBTQIA+ youth are disproportionately vulnerable to violence and discrimination, it's crucial for us to live proudly and authentically, regardless of the risks. Our visibility challenges societal norms and fosters acceptance and understanding. Nex's life was a testament to resilience and bravery, and we owe it to them and to ourselves to honor their memory by continuing to advocate for LGBTQIA+ rights and visibility.

As I campaign for Select Board, I'm committed to amplifying the voices of marginalized communities, including LGBTQIA+ individuals, and advocating for policies that promote inclusivity and equality for all. Nex's tragic death serves as a sobering reminder of the urgent need for change, and I'm more determined than ever to work toward a future where every person can live authentically and without fear.

In the face of hatred and discrimination, let us honor Nex's legacy by living boldly and unapologetically as our true selves. Together, we can create a world where everyone is seen, valued, and celebrated for who they are.

Jackie (they/them)

Resources:

• DMH Young Adult Resource Guide LGBTQ Resources | Mass.gov

• Safe Spaces for LGBTQIA+ youth | Mass.gov

• Youth | Center for Hope and Healing in Lowell, MA

• Safe Schools Program for LGBTQ students | Mass.gov